What in your view is best for D in terms of an "all four of us" B-Day? I could see the answer being either possibility depending on your dynamic. Whatever that answer is for you, go with that. That will give you the most peace of mind because you will have used the right criterion to make your decision.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
