If rifling through the underwear drawer of the wife on whom he cheated is "working on himself", I'd hate to see what not working would look like.

Hang in there, Molly -- you're doing very well from where I sit.

Me: 46
W: 44
Married: 17
Together 21
D13; S10
BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you)
Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage
Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)