Wes - I just read your sitch, as with many on here it is all to familiar. I could have written it about 6 months ago. Your roller coaster is just getting started. Let me tell you one thing (I am no veteran) but the best thing I could do was to detach. I was told this by many here on the boards. It is so difficult to do. But it does two things it shows her that you are moving on with or without her (your not playing a game it has to be for real) and it sets you up for your future you. Things are different now, and they always will be, whether you reconcile or this is the end, detaching and 180's will help you find yourself and not your dependent self. Reading your sitch sounds to me like your a pleaser...quit it. Get your Ball$ back. This will take some time and some serious self reflection. You have to realize that she is not losing sleep over this. Don't play the victim, man up and move on. She will either come back because you two truly have a rubber band around your waists or the band will snap. You need time to do "you". Let her be her, it is how healthy relationships work. If she wants to do the "we" thing again she will. You have no control over her.... be as patient as you can. Be kind, take the high road but take no $h1t! A WW/WAW will abuse you to the nth, so NC for a while is a good thing. Don't help her with anything, she made some big girl decisions that put you two in this situation so she can make some big girl decisions on how to fix her phone, car or whatever else breaks from here on out.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
