Summer Fling turned into nightmare

[bluthre]

yesterday got me to thinking about the holidays that are around the corner and my husbands birthday... should I plan to spend them alone or bring it up to him and see if he's thought about them. traditionally thanksgiving is spent at his families and we have Christmas at our house. and what about his birthday should I just buy him a gift or make plans to celebrate with him, he's mentioned not having plans and I don't know if that was a clue for me to plan something lost