I agree that I want to save my M, but it is very evident that I'm going to have to do it from separate locations.
SO – In one hand it may be easier to do it this way than in being in the same house. DB101 – Change how you look at things. If you continue to look at this as a negative then it will be.
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It is time for me to become all that I can be for me and my kids...if she sees it and likes it then we can cross that bridge later.
Best quote I have seen from you in a while. You becoming the best YOU should be the GOAL. If that results in her coming back – well then whopdedamdo – if she does not return – her lose, as YOU would have become the best man you can be which is a WIN WIN either way you look at it.
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She is my wife and I love her, but at this point she'd have to make some serious strides to come back to a loving M.
IMO, chances are YOU both need to make some serious changes. For now, you focus on YOURS and let her focus on hers.
Boundaries are a funny thing at this stage in the process – YOU can create boundaries that are used to “show her”, “get her to see that I am not kidding”, “make her feel what this is going to do” OR
You create boundaries that are “allow me to avoid the emotional roller coaster ride”, “give me the space that I need to work on ME”, etc.
See the difference?
Ultimately, YOU decide which boundaries to implement.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
