Hi SBJ. I haven't read your whole thread but will assume you have read through all the resources at the top of the forum.

What are your W's complaints with you in the M?

From what I see right now you are too attached. That said it is hard to detach living in the same house and her pushing for D.

On that. Unfortunately for you she has a right to divorce you so you can't stop that if she really wants to do it.

If she does you need to protect yourself legally, financially and emotionally.

Emotionally? Yes. That starts with boundaries and

DETACH DETACH DETACH.

Now....

Let's get busy. I asked you a question up there. How about it?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am