Thank you Job! It may only be your two cents, but it is worth a lot more to me. I am so grateful for the help. I knew I could count on someone on these boards to help me figure out what to do.
It is so hard to know what to do most of the time so I do nothing. I hardly say anything and I stay away from him as much as possible when one lives under the same roof with someone. In a way, it's a 180 for me. I keep reminding myself that doing nothing IS doing something (I read that somewhere here, I just can't remember who to attribute it to.)
I went to our former couples therapist for a session. He has a lot of experience with MLC. It was nice to talk to someone who just gets it. He was very encouraging and reinforced many of the things I have learned here. I have saved a lot of posts, highlighted a lot in the books I have read, and written notes and I just go over and over and over it to remind myself of everything. There is so much to learn and implement . . . I am trying to change the way I communicate because I want so badly to be better at this.
