I always felt the hardest part of DBing was being the moment and know the right DB response. I was terrible at it. It's much easier on this side reading about your interactions and then trying to help.
The way I improved was to try and anticipate situations and how I would respond. That was far a long in the process for me and probably way too late.
Mules/It: If I may (and I may not, as I am not resolved nor complete in my sitch) I had a brief Kubrick fascination in my life, I once read that every detail in his movies was on purpose, everything - clothes, paint, of course dialog...it all had purpose. When I began reading DB and the DB forum, the above made a whole lot of sense, found in questions like "what is your purpose", "what was your goal", or the obligatory "what you could have said...."?
To get to the point, being in the moment of DB is tough and I was not expert (still not), but anticipation (different from mind reading, I will say) seemed pretty crucial. I would use my journal to write possible answers I may have to choose from and re-read them. And then re-read them. And then...re-read them. I pulled it off successfully a few times and it went better than flying my by the seat of my very emotional pants. On the surface, this may sound dishonest, but I don't think so. As the artist wishes to present an honest piece, is it not logical to rehearse a part? This was not fake to me, because I was rehearsing possible outcomes for the truth I did believe in.
Anyway, this was a post about self tactics and not directly related to your sitch It0402, but if "it made a difference to that one" as the starfish story goes...
"There is no more important fight than the one for ourselves. Keep on winning." Ginger1, Read her newbies. BD: Feb '16 D: Mar '17 Piecing: Putting the self back together was my piecing. S6
