I'm sorry I mixed up the issue here. But, I do still agree w/kml that he needs to be working the 12 step program and there should be more meet ups than just once a month. He's just not ready or maybe unwilling to do the necessary hard work to keep this addiction in check.
Please continue to post.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.