You came to the best place I know of. Take a look at Cadet's links above and pour yourself into them. If you are having trouble GAL right now (which is normal), getting into reading and learning will help fill the time.
Just wanted to be clear on something. You are still living in the marital home and your D is with you?? Just wanted to make sure we understood.
I actually think you are doing pretty well. Obviously your W is going through something major right now and the best possible thing to do would to let her see what life is like without you.
You mention that lying was a big issue in your M. What type of lies are we talking about..you said you have been faithful, right?
Also, you guys look pretty young to be together for so long. Did your W have any serious R prior to you?
Anyway, you are in the right place. Get reading on those links and get the book. It's never too early to start working on making a more attractive you (sounds like you already started). Let's cool it with the ILY's for now. Sounds like you already recognized that fixing everything for her doesn't help. That's great!
The other thing I would say for now is when you do have to interact with her stop taking the temperature of the R. It's probably the last thing she wants to discuss right now and certainly not with you.
Anyway, you're in for a journey. But you can handle this.
Strength and Honor.
Mules
M 43 W 44 M 17 T 22 S16,12,9 Bomb 2/05/08 I served her 1/06/09 S'd 3/15/09 D'd 12/21/09
"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
