he has been to one meeting of a group like AA but for sex/love addicts and joins in on a conference call for this group about once a month.
Not enough. He can do an online 12 step group but meetings should be at LEAST once a week - usually the protocol for addicts in any 12 step program is 90 meetings in the first 90 days.
I'd do your own research too to make sure there's not one close enough for him to visit in person, and like I said, there are plenty of 12 step meetings online, I'm sure he can attend several different ones if needed but he HAS to do a heck of a lot more than once a month! If he tells you he can't find them he's lying. Does he have a sponsor? How often does he speak with his sponsor?
You're asking how you can get your feelings back for him, and I'm telling you, you CAN'T unless he is actually taking the steps needed to fix his problem. THIS IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM, it's his. And if he's not avidly pursuing the solution (i.e. very very active in working the twelve steps with his sponsor, "attending" a meeting online or in person at least once a week, etc.) then he's not sincere and you have no business trying to get those feelings back.
