FY, I respectfully disagree with you completely. There are are two major schools of thought prevailing on these boards, one is saying that one should be a friend to the "wandering spouse" as they are obviously going through a rough patch, and the other that says time for friendship has passed at BD. The vast majority of vets on these boards agree with the latter, me including.
The W left, now she seek me out when she wants unload psychologically?!? Nope, not any more. My W even tried to get me to comfort her when she found out that her affair partner was sleeping with her boss at the same time. I am still dumbfounded how that became to be...
Friendly? Yes, friendly as one would greet a distant neighbor, but not an ounce more.
SBJ, please understand, she WILL try to keep you an a hook for her plan B, so she will occasionally drop bread crumbs, and you will see this as a sign that things are turning around (or just about to turn around), which could not be farther from the truth. Trust me, you will see these signals and in time you will learn to recognize them.
To finish, let me just reiterate. No way in hell am I going to be dumped on by someone that expressed a clear desire to get the hell out my sight. You wanted me gone? Well this is what gone feels like...
