Did I mention...no of course I didn't...that my W and I got into a fight / argument on New Years Eve/New Years?
Ayup...
I know I shouldn't have BUT...
She basically went all chick on me. Seriously. It takes two to tango and all that, but in this case unlike my marriage falling apart...I was actually innocent.
I wasn't so innocent in the argument, however.
How or why it started...not so important.
He said/she said.
The chicking out on me.
She wanted me to do something. I didn't. I gave in, and then she got upset. To the point where we weren't rockin in the New Year, instead we fought.
The reason I bring this up...isn't to point out how cool I am.
...which I am by the way. : )
The point is, that during the fight I actually noticed that I was slipping back into old Jack's way of fighting prior to DBing.
Imagine that.
And part of me, didn't want to DB. Because I was THAT pi55ed off.
But I did.
The fight turned into an argument, then talking, and ...well understanding. I was still too geared up to sleep so I went downstairs and killed some zombies.
The next day she had to work a bit and when she got home, things were still a bit tense. She asked if I was still upset I said yes.
I also asked her, if there was anything I did the other night that I should apologize for. She tought long and hard, and said, No, it was actually her fault. I then apologized for the way I reacted.
I then asked her after everything that happened if she had apologized to me.
She said if I would shutup she could. And did so.
When I say DBing is a lifestyle I mean it. I am better for it, and so is my marriage. Boundaries still exist for you, and your spouse.
The old Jack, never would have asked for an apology, he would have let that fester.
Chicking out.
Totally my term. So when it becomes popular I started it.
When a woman does the Venus thing.
Chicking Out (v) - orgin - North American Jack When a woman vehemently professes one thing but means another. My wife totally chicked out on me when she said that woman was attractive and asked me if I thought so too. I was too smart however and said no at first, however, she said it wasn't a trap, and wanted my honest answer. Now I'm sleeping on the couch.
For the ladies:
Manswering (v) - North America Jack When a man isn't paying the proper attention to a women's story, he will manswer with prompts (ahuh, you got that right, that's too bad) to show her he is pretending to listen. Smart women use this to their advantage. In the middle of manswering his beautiful wife's story, Dale discovered that he just argreed to go the the bridal and flower show with her next weekend instead of watching the game. Poor Dale.
