New LBH with WAW/Possibly WW, help Part 2

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I told her im giving her space, not going to ask what or with whom she's doing things with, so we can stay in our house for the benefit of S.

What about transparency?

Sandi, we're not piecing, we're not working on R, she still wants to physically separate and, AFAIK, get a D at some point. I think she's still got wayward in her, and there's 0 chance of her being transparent right now as I think she is probably looking for an OM (or hell, maybe she has another one already). While I hate it, there's little I can do about it right now, so...

The strategy I'm trying to take right now is, let her do her thing, and I'll do my thing. I'm not going to ask what she's doing, and she shouldn't ask what I'm doing (although she got kind of upset when I wouldn't tell her who I was going to hang out with the other night). Let's act separated, but ensure someone is available for S if we're going out at night (so far, so good here).

I'm trying to detach, but it's very hard, I do think about what she's doing, and of course, I always imagine she's doing some OM. It's bad for me, but it's hard for me to stop thinking about her.

And, I know, the trying to have sex with her is not a part of detaching/giving her space, but, TBH, it is a big 180 for me, and I'm really hard up for her now (since I stopped PMO'ing). It's a bad excuse, but, would it really hurt since we didn't have sex before (at least the last 2 years)?

Thanks guys.