I guess I'm asking, "How do I make myself love him again?".
We live about 45min away from a large city, he has been to one meeting of a group like AA but for sex/love addicts and joins in on a conference call for this group about once a month. No therapist in our area takes it seriously. It's like he is addicted to the "first love" feeling & once that is gone he cheats/relationship hops to feel it again.
Do I believe him that he wants to make it work? I don't know, I guess I do but I'm so cautious at this point.
Do I want to make it work? Yes, but for reasons like the kids, financial, comfort of not putting myself in a new relationship.
I don't know how to see him for the person I fell in love with because that person was a lie.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction