I guess I'm asking, "How do I make myself love him again?".

We live about 45min away from a large city, he has been to one meeting of a group like AA but for sex/love addicts and joins in on a conference call for this group about once a month. No therapist in our area takes it seriously. It's like he is addicted to the "first love" feeling & once that is gone he cheats/relationship hops to feel it again.

Do I believe him that he wants to make it work? I don't know, I guess I do but I'm so cautious at this point.

Do I want to make it work? Yes, but for reasons like the kids, financial, comfort of not putting myself in a new relationship.

I don't know how to see him for the person I fell in love with because that person was a lie.


Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction