I know I don't belong in the MLC area but the other ones get so little traffic and I could really use some advice...
It's been almost 9 months since the sexting/prostitute stuff and I am stuck. I'm miserable, my husband desperately wants to make our family work and I just don't have the same feelings for him. From the outside our marriage looks perfect, I am close to some moms from our twins preschool and up until a month ago they had NO CLUE about any of our history. I opened up to two of them and they were SHOCKED, saying we looked like the perfect family.
We don't really fight. My husband is very conflict avoidant and I just get sad, not really angry. There are so many days I feel like I'm reliving the he## all over again. Something small triggers the emotion and I spiral out of control emotionally reliving ALL the pain.
First I want to say that you should post where ever you are going to get feedback...
It might not always be geared to your situation but that is ok. You use what you can and disregard the rest.
Triggers will keep coming unless and until you deal with them.
Your signature line says that he has gotten help with his sexual addiction...
Is he still working on that?
Do you believe him?
Trust is the easiest thing to lose and the hardest thing to regain...
Why don't you have that same feelings for your H? How would you describe how you feel towards him? And how to you believe you would like to feel about him in order to make the M work?
I know...lots of questions...
The answers, while they may change over time, are important to decide what steps to take...
People know where to find me if this is to personal of an outlet...
I will be at work this evening but will check back...
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
