Ginger,yes... It definatly comes down to working on my worthiness. That I would be worthy of love regardless of getting older/ losing a job/ getting sick or unattractive, etc...and that's hard to work on. It's funny how things circle. When I first came on these forums under my old name, another poster had discussed with me the concept of core beliefs...which I think is as simple as basic, healthy self esteem. Discovering who I am at the core, which is really an unknown without all the experiences of life no?
Vanilla, thank you... Having no expectations from someone and just accepting them for what they offer in the present has actually been working. My negative fears do frequently pop up though. The good thing is that this time around, I keep them to myself and to you guys! And no I'm not the same, thank god. I was not a cool wife at all. For so many reasons!