1. Book: Become the best version of me and "be happy" at all times but detach. Listen to her intently when she talks to me and make eye contact, and show her someone who she wants to be with. 2. Sandis rules: Detach, remove myself from her everyday - act civilly when addressed but do not engage with her, cut off contact during the day. Make her feel I am moving on and make her feel my absence.
I would be interested in knowing which rules say this ^^^^^^^. Which rules do you see as contradiction to what MWD has written?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
