This really isn't any advice, but Jack posted this to me very early in my sitch and it is something that I've always remembered, but really couldn't even relate to until fairly recently:

I wouldn't trade who I have become for anything.

Thanks Jack.

Tad

Currently:
M 56 XW 57
Sons 38,33,31,29

The Sitch:
Married 26 years
EA w/ OM 9/10
Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary)
Sep 12/10
She wants D 1/11
W files 5/11
D final 10/11
XW marries OM 6/13