I think she eliminates everything that doesn't suit her mind of the future. Very concerned how the custody piece shakes out with W unwilling to budge.
It looks like you & your W simply don't agree on the basics, so it will have to be decided by the court. I hope you have a good L and you've been consulting her/him about this, so that you are ready to make a strong case for a 50-50 custody.
I'm sorry to hear what you're going through.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final