Thanks Bee and Job. It's been a hard and testing week. Patience, patience, patience.... Some of you here are truly an inspiration for me! I'm trying to stay strong and consistent. I think I am being tested as I think she is trying (possibly unconsciously)to get a reaction from me to keep justifying herself. I will get short texts (I know this is a problem, reading into this form of communication, but I know she talk texts so she has to be short and then say period, etc. lol), etc. and then she will act like it is me if I react to them.
This week was a little weird. She seemed to distance after last Sunday night which was nice. She hasn't been staying long, only sometimes eating, etc. Tuesday night I was beat and didn't want to cook. Since she's been eating with us I waited for her to come over after work (she was later than normal) and asked if she would like to go have pizza with us. We went to a pizzeria and after we ordered and I paid she sat at a table with three chairs, well there are four of us. S and I ended up sitting at one table and W and D at another. She was acting off all night and kept trying to give me money for her food.
A couple days later was parent teacher conferences. We both spoke with D's teacher last year because she was S's teacher the year before so she knows a little about what is going on and also thought the kids might be moving. At the end of the conference W basically told her she got a better job and that's why they were still here. Then told her that her friend's basement got flooded and so the kids couldn't stay there with her but she was moving out soon and the kids would be with her part time after, etc.
Her basement did get flooded but it is unfinished and the kids and her were sharing a room when they were there last spring. I think she was embarrassed since she was telling people she was moving. D also had a lot of writings and drawings about home without W in them. I was thinking how sad it was so it probably really hurt W.
I've been trying to keep things normal this week but as I mentioned above, I think she is trying to get a reaction out of me. No friendly texts or nights this week.
Today was her day off. She said she was coming over in the morning but didn't get here until almost noon. She said she couldn't sleep last night. She took the kids out and came back 3-4 hours later and left. She said she had to do laundry. So strange...
Yesterday I took the kids to Dinosaur Zoo Live. They absolutely loved it! I bought W a ticket too (after asking her after I bought ours) but she couldn't make it. Some of those costumes were amazing.
My court date got put off so my status hearing is now in January. Not getting any hopes up but maybe just a little fog might clear with some time. I think sometimes it might just a little, IDK though. I can see she is still grasping at external solutions through it.
