So I have to say after reading the book, I am bit confused. I am struggling between the following strategies:
1. Book: Become the best version of me and "be happy" at all times but detach. Listen to her intently when she talks to me and make eye contact, and show her someone who she wants to be with. 2. Sandis rules: Detach, remove myself from her everyday - act civilly when addressed but do not engage with her, cut off contact during the day. Make her feel I am moving on and make her feel my absence.
How can you be happy, lovingly detach and show her the best version of "you" AND follow the rules of detachment outlined by Sandi and making her feel your absence by removing yourself from all activities to the point she feels you are not there?
