I change my mind 7 times a day whether or not to fight for this marriage.
Like Mules wrote in my thread, you gotta be true to your heart ... but the heart sometimes the hardest thing to know. I hope it becomes clear to you.
About WH's phone ... I've struggled with that kind of curiosity, the need to know ... but after a while, a comment posted by someone else just rang true to me: I just don't want to live like this (constantly suspecting that something is going on). So I just went cold turkey on all social media. I feel much better.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
Marriages go through difficult times. this is the 'for worse' part. He spent years enjoying the 'for better', is he going to run away as soon as it's not great?
My advice to both of you is give it time. He had to be completely over the A before anyone can tell.
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M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
