Honeypot - you're joking, right? Are you really blaming her for her SO's issues? Please tell me I'm misreading what you're saying.
Alorna - Porn or no porn, you are in an abusive relationship. The power trips he's using on you are CLASSIC techniques an abuser uses to scare you into staying with him. I am saying this because I have been there. My first husband was an addict (alcohol) and used his anger and rage to control me. It was gradual, so that by the time I was in too deep I didn't realize the path I'd taken to get there. By then he was watching my every move. The few times I tried to leave he would chase me down the street. Then he'd apologize and be remorseful and I'd take him back. Then we had baby twins together and I thought I should stay with him for their sake. But one day, while he was yelling at me and berating me in front of them (they were about a year old) I looked into their little eyes and I could see fear. And I knew I had to get out. Alorna, get out. Wait until he is gone from the house. Don't make excuses, and don't listen to his threats about taking your baby (it's a CLASSIC threat made by abusers), just pack your stuff and get out. It's only going to get worse. If you don't have the strength to do this for yourself, do it for your baby before his little life is ruined, too.
