Zues, Zues. I enjoy reading your posts because a lot of what you write speaks to me, despite our many differences. At the same time, it can cut to close to the core.
I am feeling like you do now. I am wondering if I can ever open myself up, warts and all because it takes so much effort. I might have just exhausted my emotional vulnerability in this lifetime.
Maybe this is just a season in our lives. Maybe there will be someone who approaches you again. Maybe there will be someone who feels that my warts are not warts but beauty marks.
Wrt to Chinese girls, they come in all shapes and sizes, and with varying beliefs in M as well. I hate to disappoint you but I know many who not only will not condone As in their M, but who will also not hesitate to end their M because their S were not this, were not that, did not buy them this, did not buy them that. And there are those who will break up someone else's M just so that they can have someone who will buy them this and buy them that.
As for their gentle demeanour? It can be a case of steel claws (wolverina?) in velvet gloves.
But I also know many lovely ones.
As for Chinese men, I heard (and witnessed) that those from Shanghai can be uxorious.
I do agree with your friend's observation that the stigma is greater for women than for men when it comes to A and D.
Well, enough about cultural differences.
Do continue posting because I enjoy reading your posts.
Btw, regardless of which culture your future significant other may be from, do continue with the book reading. That is a total killer for most, if not all, women. Unless of course you're reading from Chess or Pool for dummies.
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
