I suggest you think of her as if she is an elderly person renting a room in your house, or a nosy neighbor. Thinking of her as though she's a friend, IMO, is not healthy. She is not your friend. She is betraying you.

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Also I have GAL, working out etc.


It's good you are working out, but GAL for real.

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She has all of a sudden become very into telling me about her day in detail. Also, if she's out late I find her overexplaining to me what she's doing and why. She has been throwing things into the conversation that allude to the future such as, "when we retire we're going to have a buddy with us! (alluding to my son with Down syndrome)". It's all in a positive tone.


And do you play along with this little game? She does this to keep blinders on you as long as possible. Believe none of it.

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I feel she is perhaps leaving bread crumbs to keep me at bay or she suspects I may know about the affair as I STILL haven't confronted her. (Yes I know this is bad). Even though it might be a bit disengenious, isn't this progress? At least we are engaging in conversation!


How can you see engaging in conversation as progression, when she is lying to you.....and sleeping with OM?



Are you working on your boundaries?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!