Eating Life with a Big Spoon

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Thanks Sotto, Job and Esame. Job - that projection certainly could apply to both him and his mother.

I am seeing lots of weird stuff over here. Mostly, extreme irritability, extreme happiness and then strange comments. It's odd. Not sure what this is all about. Here are a few examples.

H shows moments of boisterous enthusiasm: when he greets the dog and over the start of NBA season. He said he is very excited basketball started again and it's a level of engagement he has not shown in a lonnnng time.

The other night h wanted ketchup with something on his meal. He asked if "we" were out of it. I said "hmm, not sure; I never eat it." H announces in a very exaggerated way "so 'WE' need ketchup and tea" (a specific tea that only he drinks). I don't say anything but I realize I rarely think in "we" terms anymore.

Last night h and s13 started bickering in the most ridiculous way. Like two kids. H said s13 told him he needed a ride to x place. S13 said he did not say that but that he had said he needed a ride to z place. Over that they started to squabble. H: "you DID say it." S13: "no, I didn't." And repeat that a few times. I started to laugh because it was like a vaudeville skit. When I laughed out loud h scolded in a sneering way (sooo irritably) "what are YOU laughing about? What is SO funny?" I said "THIS is funny. It's so ridiculous it's funny. And just because you are cranky does not mean we all have to be." He simmered right down. S13 told h that h always thinks he is right and can never admit fault. H said "I am right." Very mature all around. When h left the room S13 said: "it's really immature that he is almost 50 and acting like that."

This morning the music from the dorm room started pre-8 AM. I just had to get away from it. I left for coffee and to grab bagels. When I returned, I was walking up to the door and my dog started to bark. Guess he didn't recognize it was me. One of h's dorm windows faces the path to the door and he has this plantation shutter on the window. When the dog started barking h snapped "what the
h€ll?" and loudly slammed the shutter closed. So cranky. Does he think I was peeking in there?!? He reminded me of Oscar the Grouch slamming the lid to his garbage can.

Today at S11's game, h started a conversation with a couple who recently moved here. He was so present. I had my headphones in and made a point of removing them and saying "sorry! Don't mean to be rude keeping my headphones in!" (Hopefully h will get the cue about headphone manners 101.). H introduced me as his wife and made the intro definitively, not like it was a gaffe. I just ignored it. It's weird given he does not treat me like his wife and also given the way he lives his life within the home. It feels real phony.

He went into S13's room one morning. He never goes into any of our rooms. When he came into the kitchen S11 asked "why did you go in there?!?" H said "to wake him up." It was kind of sad all around that it makes headlines when he goes into one of their rooms. I am not sure h read the surprise or even understood why S11 expressed it.

H seems to be all over the place right now. And I also notice that he gets even more cranky with me when I am happy. I hate to mind read but me thinks he wants me miserable.