It's as though you hear nothing we say. Stop playing family with her. Stop being her BFF. Stop giving her access to your house. No more home cooked meals. No more spending time together. Stop using the kids as an excuse. Stop inviting her, and stop accepting her invitations. No more telling her where you are going, who you are going with, or what you will be doing. Stay away from her. Heck yeah......distance yourself!
Why don't you start acting as if you are a free agent, and loving it......instead of whining about how you can't say anything to her? Just what do you think you could say that would cause her to call off the D and give the M another chance? Nothing! Your words won't work.
Have we ever heard some of the b.s. your W is throwing at you? You bet! Telling you the vows no longer have meaning for her (which she proved that point by having affairs) and how there needs to be a D and then maybe see where things go.........is junk talk. New vows won't mean any more than the current ones mean.
Yes, we've seen it many times on the board. Your W is no original. We've seen this same scenario so many times, it's not funny. It's her way of giving you false hope.....and keeping you tied to her skirt, for those times she wants to play happy family. You are definitely plan B to whatever better option comes along for her. Just b/c you aren't seeing her plan A, means NOTHING. This is the woman who has always been secretive, remember?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
