I would even go as far as to say that you did too much for her, you were a classic fixer. My W just after BD accused me of helping too much. Crazy heh? I always thought that not helping enough gets you in trouble with the W, but it seems that helping too much is just as bad if not worse...
To not try to make sense of it, because there is none to be made. And if you try to, it will just drive you nuts.
