Jack posted this for me back in August, when I was considering telling H about a comment S10 made at the time:
"Esame,
About children and the MLCer.
Its a hard thing to do, should he be aware of what your son said?
That's a tough question.
Advice I'd offer is that if you choose to make him aware, do it generally. I wouldn't specifically tell him word for word what your son said, but that your son seems to be concerned and maybe he or both of you could talk to him about it.
I tried my best to insulate my boys and kept things very general with them about what was going on, and with her regarding things they said about her when they did.
I believe guilt a is very big part of the MLCer and adding to it makes them sort of rabbit away from sources of guilt quickly."
I can see now that if I told H about every negative comment the kids made I would a) be using to the kids and b) pushing H further away...
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”
