My SO doesn't want me to have a sex toy. I do have a massager, and sometimes use it. I know when I do use it, he doesn't like it. It's unfair how he expects me to be ok with his porn use while he doesn't want me to have a sex toy. He always says to use him, but he is never around. He's always in the computer room. He just downloaded tons and tons of porn, and he doesn't want me to talk about it.
Porn really doesn't do anything for me. I think it just makes me more self conscious of myself, because I'm not the thin woman with big fake (or not) boobs that my SO looks at.
I just asked him what is it that is so appealing to guys about porn. He wouldn't tell me. He just wanted to sleep and told me that he'd tell me when he woke up. I doubt it.