During the last few weeks, my stbx ha been more friendly and willing to spend time with me and the girls. she told me that she feels that it is rare for a divorcing couple to get along so well....I feel like screaming inside as she seems oblivious to the fact that I am doing everything I can as described in the last resort technique and not just letting be. I always treat her with kindness and am supportive to her. She likes to keep everything open ended when stating our situation or when we talk about the future. Fact is that I live alone. I have not dated anyone and have no appetite for it. I am just old reliable me that is happy to spend time with her or the kids at any given moment. Our D8 is in hospital at the moment and my stbx is by her bed side all the time. I visit every day and am as supportive to her which makes her happy. I am still her rock. But then I leave and go back to my rental until next time.
I know reconciliation can take time and some people seem to just live their lives independently and not even see their ex for periods of time before reconnecting. I however, see her all the time as the kids are young and need us both.
Should I just continue with this arrangement or do something differently? The kids have grown used to this arrangement and seem happy to adapt to seeing their dad in a different house. For me though, I am alone and frustrated with it all. with divorce being finalized in two to three weeks, where do I go from here?
I gotta keep breathing. Because tomorrow the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?
