Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[J5K]

Sara,

I totally get how wwh makes you feel. xW makes me feel the same way. If we don't do things exactly how they would do them then they are wrong.

Somehow in their eyes we are the bad people because we can't understand or mind read what they have difficulty communicating to us.

I sense that you and I let our S's have quite a bit of control in our MR's. Not necessarily a good or bad way to live, but seems to me we were always one step behind which brought us to the place we are now.

I feel you are making progress though. Dory has given some great advice, don't sweat the small stuff. Get him to feel like he is the man of the house and is wanted by his awesome sexy wife.

If he asks you to do something again and then starts to criticize, then just give the phone back and say, here honey, you always do it the right way/better/or whatever bs line you want to add to stroke his ego and make sure you let his criticism not bother you.

I feel our sitches are very similar, had we smothered them with kindness and given them all our focus, things would have been different. That seems to work for your sitch from time to time so keep a journal of the positive things, re-read the things that go right, continue to do more of those positives and you will win the war.