Focus on Me and the Boys 9

[J5K]

Had a pretty good week with the boys. Took them to a trunk or treat this evening at S4 and S2s daycare. They had fun. Busy weekend coming up with the baptism on Sunday. Lots of prepping to do tomorrow. Getting haircuts and picking up all our suits from drycleaners and the normal day to day stuff.

xW texts this afternoon to schedule next months visit with the boys.

xW: Do the boys have Nov. 11th off?

Me: The boys do not have November 11th off

xW: Ok. Are you taking the whole thanksgiving weekend off to be with them? Your family generally does the dinner on Thursday, right? So maybe we can meet the next morning for me to have them? Would that work?

Me: I already have plans made for that weekend.

xW: Ok. Well I guess the weekend of the 11th then.

Me: Ok

Me: Please ensure you have transportation to pick them up.

xW: I thought we were swapping cars? Until the Hyundai is fixed and sold.

Me: I need the van

xW: Seriously?

Me: Yes. I need the van

xW: Is there another weekend perhaps when you don't need the van?

xW: Hey, Jim how about being a good and decent father and helping the kids maintain a relationship with their mother. How about that?

xW: No response?

xW: Fine I'll figure it out. I'll see you in London on the 11h at 5pm

Me: 5 p.m. doesn't work for me. I work until 4:30. We can meet at 8 p.m.

xW: No we can meet at 5pm as per the agreement

xW: Thanks

Me: That is no longer the agreement

xW: Yes it is actually

Me: Then I suggest you come pick them up after school

xW: No that's not the agreement

Me: 8 p.m.

xW: I guess I'll see you in court then

xW: Look I don't want to drag this into court

xW: The agreement says 5pm

xW: But if you want to do 8pm then we meet at 8pm on the Sunday. I have the right to a full weekend.

xW: Please confirm.

xW: When is your transfer scheduled?

xW: Things will be a whole lot easier to coordinate then...

Me: xW I feel that is too late for the boys to come back on Sunday. They will be exhausted for school on Monday then.

xW: I understand your concern

xW: But I'm entitled to a full weekend

xW: So either meet me at 5pm on the Friday or it'll be 8pm on Sunday

Me: Agree. I suggest finding another alternative so you can have 48 hrs.

xW: What is it you suggest

Me: There is flexibility in your schedule to pick them up from school.

xW: No

Me: Boys are in bed by 8 so they need to be home by 8. It is a 2.5 hour drive for them.

Me: From London

xW: Then I suggest we meet at the scheduled time of 5pm

xW: End of story

Me: I work. It doesnt work for me.

xW: Ok well when I guess you can explain that to the judge

xW: That's not an argument

Me: I get this is frustrating.

Me: Your right. It is not an arguement. It is a fact.

xW: Well meet at 8pm then

Me: Agree for Friday.

xW: See you on the 11th at 8pm

xW: In London

xW: Update on the transfer?

Me: What time on Sunday then?

Me: 6?

xW: 8pm

Me: I feel you are not considering the needs of the boys by asking to meet so late.

xW: You're entitled to your feelings

Me: 6 pm

Me: Their bed time is 8


Going to have to sort this out with L's again since she does not know that the world doesn't revolve around the princess.