Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 5

[JksD]

Ugh. Your H is being really childish! Yes, I hate it when someone asks me how I feel then goes on to completely ignore me or reframe the whole conversation into why I was wrong to feel the way I felt.

It seems to be a wwh thing, doesnt it? Probably that's the reason they strayed - to find someone who will not doubt that they are the only ones whose reality is valid. They want someone to put them on pedastals.

Ok. End of rant.

Just checking. Does your H deliberately demean you or hurt you? If he does, then there is another problem. When I think of someone who is controlling, I think of someone who deliberately hurts to maintain control. Does he enjoy hurting or demeaning you?



Now back to dbing, if you dont think your H is pathologically controlling/ pyschopathic or sociopathic.

So talking about how you feel isn't working at this time. If your H was your patient, how would you deal with him in a professional but detached manner?

What is the fastest and simplest way to disengage yourself? Do a 180. Simply just do it?

Would humour help? I dont know, make a funny face. Answer him, yes daddy (teacher), I'll do it exactly the way you like. And erm, maybe turn it into something naughty? Tell him that for every demand that he makes to do things only his way he has to remove an article of clothing? (Inspiration from mwd's books)

Remember, your H is facing the same adjustment of having you in his life 24/7. And he's acting out. He has lived on his own for a lot of your M. He's a high flier (?) who's used to having people listen to him.

So ego issue here.

Sara, choose your battles. Keep your eye on winning the war, not the battles.