Don't ask her for what! Detach and give space. I found with my WW that if I asked about a Drs appt I was often accused of prying into her business and trying to control her. Yea....I know.
Hey, yes this sounds familiar. If I did directly say, like why did you go to the doctors, she would say why are you asking, your so controlling.
Before all this mess, asking someone about why they went to the doctor and how they are, was considered a caring action and a sign of thinking about your partner. But not in the Twilight Zone of WAS. lol....
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03/15 : ILYBINILWY 10/15 : IDLYA 01/16 : "I'm sacrificing to stay in the marriage for the kids!" 10/16 : She discusses Seperation BUT...she's still here..for now