Morality Clause in D decree???

[SBJ]

The funny thing is that I know you are right on all counts, but the fact that it has only 3.5 months still has me shocked. I have gone from the thought that all was well in my M to D and her moving out that fast. I just wish there was a coping switch that I could flip so that dealing with the separation anxiety would be easier...separation from both my W and kids (at least half of the time). I have been the consummate family guy...always doing for the W and kids. Now I'm having to tell myself to go back to when I was 20 and think and do for myself. That is a hard pill to swallow.

It's kind of funny that our spouses MLC creates our own MLC where we are just as confused as they are. Our only difference is that we know what we want. They on the other hand seem totally dazed and confused.

I saw something this morning that made sense to me...it said:
Beware of destination addiction...The idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, or even with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.

Maybe:
*Once she is out of the house and I have to spend a week by myself the reality of the situation will actually kick in.

*Not seeing my kids every day will help the reality kick in.

*Having to cook dinner for one instead of 4-5 will help me see.

I'm not saying that this will be easy or that this will be over soon...but to be honest I guess I was hoping for a little divine intervention. I will continue to work on myself physically, mentally & emotionally. I will continue to grow in my faith. I will continue to grow and nurture my friendships, both old and new. I will continue to check things off of my Bucket List...either by myself, with my kids, with friends, or with whomever decides they want to join the party.