Oh Lou, I don't know what to say. I have not been to your position but it sounds like a heartbreaking thing to go through. I really haven't got any advice, I only wanted to say that up you are heard, and to send you strength.
(((Hugs)))
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”