LT, your W sounds unhinged. Not a lot you can do when she's not in her right mind.
Don't settle for anything less than 50-50. If your W can't go a week w/o seeing her D, maybe you can agree to do the 2-2-3?
Your W manipulating your D about the divorce (e.g., "she'd be happy if you moved out") is just not right. I'd ask your L if there is any recourse/repercussions for that kind of behavior.
Sounds really tough ...
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final