Don't even consider retrouville. You aren't in the position to be recommending anything at this point. In fact, making those types of recommendations to her will most likely do more damage.

No need to try to describe the different look. I know what you are talking about. Think of it this way....they view us as looking differently too! Hence why some distance and detachment will help!

34, xw33
M-10, T-18
2D (8 and 5)
Ilybinilwy-1/16
EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend)
Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated)
W moved out-8/16
W Filed 11/21/16
D final 1/30/17