RePost from Calder timely read about going Dark

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Thank you so much, Job. That was a lovely post.

I just got back an hour ago from signing my D papers at the courthouse (for convenience, since my L was already there...H had already signed a week before). They were to going to go directly to the judge, so its pretty much a done deal. I have given H (now XH) what he asked for, even though he insisted it was not what he wanted; insisted that it was what was our best bet at finding happiness. Who knows; maybe it is. Maybe not in a way either of us can even imagine at this time.

I plan on trying to follow the advice given. I'm letting it all go, knowing that some times are going to be awfully hard. But I believe this post as well as the ideas behind DBing are the best way to find a way beyond this crazy situation. Thanks again, Job, for another timely "bump" for the "newbies".