Summer Fling turned into nightmare

[Painter]

Hi, and welcome! It's great that you are here, I am so sorry for your predicament.

I agree that he is using the other women to dull his pain.

Having been cheated on in a big way by my husband, this is what I would have wanted my WH to say:

"I understand that I have hurt you more than I can fathom. I am so, so, sorry. I have destroyed so much with these selfish and thoughtless actions, and I can only hope that you will give me an opportunity to repair some of the damage I have caused, if nothing else for our child and family."

"I will go to counseling to get help to find out how I could do such a thing. I understand if you need time to yourself to figure out what you want. If you have any questions, I will answer them openly, as many times as you need. Maybe I don't have all the answers myself, but I will be completely transparent and open."

In short, let him know you regret, feel remorse and empathy, that you want to save your marriage, but won't try to 'manage' the way he gets through this.

And then expect that this may take several years. It sounds like a lot, but you'll surprised at how quickly time passes.