I am not sure how to do that thing where you put the previous comments into your reply.
So first off people you should be a little less freakin' judgmental. If we weren't all struggling with our marriages we wouldn't be here. Do I like the marriage I am in...hell no. You don't like yours either or you wouldn't be here trying to figure something out. So I'm trying to figure it out. If I occasionally vent a little bit to much and it is to your disliking then go ahead and throw the first stone in your little glass house.
Now...
I haven't read DR or DB. I did pick up a different book by Michele Weiner-Davis, have read the 5 love languages that the coach suggested, and different book by Gottleib that the coach suggested. I have now contacted a local bookstore to get a copy of DB. I have also scheduled a call with my coach for today.
Am I committed to this marriage? It's hard to say "yes, absolutely" when things are so miserable. We haven't hardly talked in days, tension in the air, it just [censored]. Am I ready to run out the door? Have I contacted a lawyer? No, none of that stuff. The marriage we have now...I don't want to continue. Can we build something new and different? Maybe.
Married: 15 yrs (anniversary on Aug 4th) Kids: Boy (10) and Girl (7) Age: 47