Keep on keeping on, Sara. You have the gift of time and the gift of your H's physical presence. You have the grit, the resilience and the wisdom.

You know what it is you're fighting for. For your M, for your children, for your grandchildren. For future happy memories with your H and children. For not having to worry about who is going to sit where during your children's wedding. For not having to worry about the logistics and emotional dynamics of blended families.

It is not just love you're fighting for.

Please understand that I am not, and will never ask that you be a doormat, throw all boundaries to the wind, and sacrifice yourself in the fight.

Take care of yourself first. Arm yourself with the necessary physical, emotional and financial support. Be an improved version 2.0 of Sara. Keep on even keel. Don't get onto the wrecking ball.

And then you can fight for your M.

You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.