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Yes, I had problems with the goals chapter. I don't think you can write goals that rely on someone else doing something, I think those are 'success indicators.'

So, I would make none of your goals reliant on your spouse in any way. However, your goals could be around becoming the kind of person you want to become - which may lead your spouse to want to interact and spend more time with you.

So, for example - if you used to spend your days unwashed in saggy trackie bottoms, ignoring the kids and eating junk food, playing on the X-box - you have plenty to go at.

Let's look at the elements there:

Improving personal hygiene and grooming
Making an effort to dress better
Spending quality time with your children
Look after your health, eat well and exercise
Deal with your X-box addiction

Now I give an extreme example, but you start to see where I am going here??

Make your goals all about you and the guy you want to be. Don't make them about your R, but work on the basis of becoming a better you, which may help save your M.

Hope this helps :-)