An issue has come up that is iconic of a recurring problem in our relationship. This issue has been a problem since he started his affair and I do not understand it.
Could ya'all help me figure out the issues behind this? I really need some fresh eyes and additional insight.
So the issue is this . . .
We were discussing some candidates in the upcoming election for a particular office. (I will not reveal too much because it might identity me/us.) I personally know some candidates, some I know by reputation only, and some I have never heard of. A friend of H's asked him to ask me my opinion of the candidates. I shared my thoughts and experiences with the various people I knew and worked with and shared what I knew of the reputation of the others. There was one race where I did not know either candidate or know of them. One of the candidates works for my company the other candidate works for a different company. I told H the pros and cons of each from the perspective of the different companies they work for and what their experience levels would likely be. I also told him that I thought the people who work for the other company are probably smarter than the people in my office because they clean up the mistakes that we make in our company. H replied that does not necessarily make them smarter.
The issue is this, frequently, when I express an opinion about something, he comes in and fights with me about my opinion. I feel like he was deliberately trying to pick a fight with me.
I KNOW the real issue is not whether in fact the people from this other company are indeed smarter than the people in my company. But what is the real issue? I just cannot seem to figure it out?
Does he just want to prove me wrong in something? Does he think I am over generalizing?
What gets me is that he has NO experience working with the people from the other company, nor has he ever met or talked with them, and I do. What gives? Help please!
As a side note, I did a 180. Rather than flame out, I responded that his comment is true and that I must just be lucky because the ones I have worked with are really smart.
