Oh she definitely has depression. She is taking stuff for it, and it helps, but only to take the edge off. Her family dynamic is pretty sick too. Before we were married (before I even knew her) she had an aunt that started making up lies about her. My wife's brother's wife (her sister in law) was pregnant. My wife's aunt starts telling my wife's mom that the baby isn't the brother's, but is actually my wife's. My (now) mother-in-law believed it enough to travel a long distance to visit to confirm she didn't have a baby. Now...what the heck kind of aunt would make up that kind of stuff and what kind of mom would believe it? Her family lies to each other like they are pouring breakfast cereal...it's just no big deal. Except they all get upset when they catch each other doing it.
My wife in turn lies to the kids. Mainly about small things ("we are going to leave without you")that do scare the kids sometimes.
So depression? Yes...but there is oh so much more than that.
Are you serious?????
Your bringing stuff up from before you were even married!!!!
Wife makes small lies to kids??? Who here doesn't say things like, I'm gonna leave without you to the kids.
I'm sorry, but you are really villifying her. You are setting this up so that you can justify walking out on your family. And trying to round up tons of support from the forums, and I bet your work buddies and friends.
is she verbally and emotionally abusive too?
Hey by any chance is there a woman at work that totally understands you better? Somone that you wish your wife was more like? You don't even have to answer that here? But seriously reflect on this.
No kid comes out of this unharmed. There are kids on these forums whose parents have left them, that pull their hair out, have major behavior issues and talk about suicide.
I don't mean to be hard on you but seriously. Have a little bit of empathy and compassion. You marriedier for a reason and you contributed too.
Your in a position where you have the power to save things. Marriages do have downs especially when the kids are young. Start focusing on what you can do. The small things did make a difference, but you seem so impatient and sarcastic regarding her. Stop villifying her. Read the books. The dB coaches are really helpful, which is most likely why you don't want to use them...because your checked out already.
I really hope for your kids sake you get real about this.
