CBTDAD -- can you maybe see that her using a toy is far, far better for your sitch than her using another man's anatomy (which, unfortunately, a lot of posters here are dealing with).

That said, I'm only in month two of total sexual freeze out, and I'm about to lose my mind, so I commiserate with you.

Me: 46
W: 44
Married: 17
Together 21
D13; S10
BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you)
Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage
Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)