Do not do anything just to spite her.
Originally Posted By: Hopful
to the people that she's listening to and are hearing her side it sounds like I'm being a dick.

So, you can determine if you are being a dick. You cant control how she responds or what she says to others. So are you being spiteful?

Protect yourself and your D in all the ways possible (emotional, financial,...).
Originally Posted By: Hopful
I do want to make sure what's left of my family is taken care of.

Good. Thats what matters.

Just remember that that includes you.