Cemar you are obsessed with yourself , instead of always focusing on your own sexual needs open up your eyes and your mind and hear what your wife is telling you. If you love your wife like you say you do and you seem to like to read, so for your next book may I suggest Allies in Healing (When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child) Just maybe, after you have read this book you won't be so thickheaded and really start to hear her. Maybe spend a bit more time with her instead of crying the blues about your lack luster sex life here as you don't seem to get any of the good advice most people hear have been giving you. If you still can't crack that thick head of yours open after reading this book then maybe you should leave your wife and let her find someone that really does care about her. You can then pursue a life in the adult industry and take care of your HD needs.